Maturity is when you stop trying to change people, and instead focus on changing yourself. Maturity is when you accept people for who they are. Maturity is when you understand that everyone is right in their own perspective.
Maturity is when you learn to “let go”. Maturity is when you are able to drop “expectations” from a relationship and give for the sake of giving. Maturity is when you understand that whatever you do, you do for your own peace.
Maturity is when you stop proving to the world how intelligent you are. Maturity is when you focus on positives in people. Maturity is when you do not seek approval from others. Maturity is when you stop comparing yourself with others.
Maturity is when you are at peace with yourself. Maturity is when you can differentiate between “need” and “want, and you can you can let go of your wants. Maturity is when you stop attaching “happiness” to material things.
You might have heard “Play to your strengths” pretty often – from self-help books to various motivational speeches to the pep talk given by senior leadership. In fact the phrase has been overused so much that we actually ignore the importance it carries. My humble attempt via this post is to help you understand what it really means and how to actually leverage it for your own success.
Most often we take our strengths for granted and lay a great emphasis on improving our weak areas. While it is not incorrect to try and improve the weak areas however by focusing only on the areas of improvement you are playing on back foot. This also lowers your confidence and puts you on a trajectory where you are feeding a lot of negatives to your mind.
Instead what one should actually do is to focus on your strengths – understand them and leverage them to the best possible extent. By focusing on your strengths you are focusing on positivity and it directly boosts your self-confidence. When you operate from a strength mindset, it is more easier to take steps to overcome your weak areas too.
So do spend some time and identify your strength areas – get help from friends or mentors or take some of the personality tests to identify them. Once you know them, dwell on them and learn to use them for your success.
At times we get overwhelmed by our own emotions. Sometimes it could be sheer frustration at other times it could be grief. It can be betrayal or even separation from a loved one. Emotional turmoil can mean different things for different people both in type and intensity. One of the most common reasons for emotional turmoil is the mismatch between expectations and reality. This could be in the form of a bad appraisal, betrayal of a friend, separation from a loved one, heated altercation with spouse or not being able to keep up with the daily grind when there is too much on your plate.
Whatever the reason might be, the important thing to understand is how you respond to adverse situations in your life. Observe what you do when you find yourself in one such situation and feel completely helpless?
Do you sulk and sulk till you get over it. Do you brood over it over a cup of coffee or over a smoke break. Do you just pull the blanket over your head and hit the bed to cut out the continuous chatter in your brain Or do you throw temper tantrums.
Some people weep and need to be left alone till they get over it. Some look for solace in a friend’s company. While some others subconsciously binge on chocolates and junk food. Some even go shopping to divert their mind.
Different people have different ways of dealing with emotional stress. At a very broad level – it is either FIGHT or FLIGHT.
Some things heal with time, some are bundled and pushed into a corner of your mind as you get busy with the things at hand till someone pulls the skeletons out of the closet once again. And in most cases you learn to live with the pain.
What if I tell you a that there is a way which will help you deal with your emotional stress in a better way. What If you could channelize your emotions in a positive way. It may also help you heal over a period of time. For the healing to happen we need to learn to manage our emotions.
If you want to learn about a healthier way to deal with your emotional stress watch this space for updates.
For a long time we have been told to focus on improving our weak areas to succeed in life. Also realise that at most times when we request for feedback we keep the good part aside and go after the areas of improvement.
However, we cannot be perfect so this strategy for success is an infinite loop in itself. And also it is a very time consuming process to clearly identify your weak areas and build enough competency to make any visible improvement.
A lot of experienced folks realise that they have less time in hand and the strategy of working on the weak areas is something which may not give them quick results. A better approach in the current scenario is to play to your strengths.
“To play to your strengths” means to first Identify your top strengths (competencies that you are really good at) and then leverage them for maximum growth in the shortest possible time. This means find/switch to opportunities/roles where you can best utilise your strengths. And the good news is that unlike working on your weaknesses you don’t have to go through a painful process of change. Your strengths are already inherent within you. All you need to do is to do some introspection and objectively identify your top strengths. Once done acknowledge them and start working on your strength areas and see the results.
Consider a drop of pure water falling from the sky. If it lands on flowers or leaves, it becomes a dew drop.If it falls on a hot surface, then it loses it’s identity and vanishes.If the same drop lands in an oyster, it gets converted into a pearl…
That is the power of a good mentor. The literal meaning of a mentor is someone who imparts wisdom to and shares knowledge with a less experienced colleague. A mentor is like a navigator who helps you steer your ship in the right direction even on uncharted waters and help you reach your destination. The true importance of a mentor is understood by those who have experienced it.
Apart from choosing the right mentor, to build a working mentor – mentee relationship, the primary ingredient required is mutual trust. And mutual trust is built by maintaining an environment of confidentiality. The relationship will be beneficial if both the mentor and the mentee are able to speak their mind and both feel that their view point is heard and respected.
A mentor plays an important role in your success. However, having a mentor does not mean that he will build a ladder for your growth. Instead, he will help you build on your strengths and overcome your weakness. You will still have to do all the hard work but instead of running around in circles and not reaching anywhere, the mentor will point you towards the direction you need to focus your efforts so that they yield results.